Tuesday, September 08, 2009

What Time Has Taught Me

Just some random thoughts on what growing "older" has taught me.

1) Nothing is worth getting angry over. In the big scheme of things, it just isn't worth it. Anger results in so many other problems ranging from high blood pressure to road rage to just plain bad feelings - it's just best to let it go.
2) It's okay to apologize, even when it isn't your fault. Apologizing isn't a sign of weakness - it's a sign of maturity and a willingness to let things go, even if you are taking the worst of the bargain.
3) Keeping the eye simple is best. It's okay to have toys, but are you prepared to let them go if you have to? People are worth more than any "thing".
4) Marriages aren't supposed to be perfect in this system. The people who say that they never have to work at having a good marriage probably have no idea what's on their spouse's mind. Marriages are hard work, but one of the best rules to make one work is to always put the other's needs first. If both parties do this, then they will always look out for the other one, and the marriage will not have to deal with selfishness. I think selfishness is one of the biggest problems in marriage.
5) Violent shows aren't good for anyone. As the years have gone by, I have become very sensitive to violence on television and movies. Films that I might have enjoyed at one stage in my life have become very distasteful at this point. All violent shows do is immunize us from the traumas and pain caused by true violence. That includes violent video games, folks.
6) Guys may think that they look more distinguished as they age, but that's only because women tend to view the whole package: personality, wisdom, humor, etc. Guess what, guys ... women can look distinguished as they age, too. We just have to quit focusing so much on the exterior, and treasure the interior.

That's just a few thoughts for now. Preachy? Maybe. But I named this blog "Time Teaches" for a reason. Every now and then it just seems wise to take a step back and think of what we've learned over the years. If we have learned nothing, then we have wasted time.

3 comments:

Abdur said...

Valid observations

Angelina Fishy said...

Too bad more guys don't think like you do, Adam.

Asia said...

Violence has begun to bother me more and more recently.

When I, for lack of a better term, "like" a guy, they usually become incredibly handsome to me, but when I begin seeing traits I don't like, they literally begin to appear less and less attractive. And vice versa. So, I definitely agree with the statement that women see the whole person.